In short, I would define emotional intelligence as a quest for inner peace in a state of happiness.
Happiness in this context is not what we would associate with the possession of some external object or situation, but an unshakable state of being gained through understanding , acknowledging and tuning into one's higher inner nature or true inner being.
According to Asistotle - ''Happiness then is the best, noblest, and most pleasant thing in the world. Happiness seems, however, even if it is not god-sent but comes as a result of virtue and some process of learning or training, to be among the most godlike things; for that which is the prize and end of virtue seems to be the best thing in the world, and something godlike and blessed. '' - Nicomachean Ethics by Aristotle
According to the leading psychologist on the topic, Dr. Daniel Goldman, Emotional Intelligence is 'being able to rein in emotional impulse; to read another's innermost feelings; to handle relationships smoothy; understanding our genetic heritage of emotional set points that determines our temperament and our emotional habits that govern our lives.'
- Emotional Intelligence - Daniel Coleman
Even though definitions differ as to how we describe emotional intelligence, we all agree that our emotional education is left to chance. It is time that we take into consideration the hidden aspect of our being - emotions and feelings - and acknowlege them, for they really do have a powerful impact on every aspect of our lives.
While working as a Hypnotherapist I have had extensive contact with many people over the years who have unsuccessfully exhausted the medical system in search of realigning with health in the face of terminal illnesses. As a Traditional Spiriual Guide and Healer, I have also worked in the federal prison, mostly with inmates condemed to life sentences. In all of these cases I have found a common thread, spun with a lack of connection to their inner emotional world and a great need to develop more self-awareness.
Due to emotional traumas, abusive environments, as well as a lack of acknowledgement, support, communication and understanding of emotions and feelings by caregivers, many people have become totally disconnected or shut down from their emotions. If you were to ask someone from this background, in an attitude of sincerity and deep concern, how they were feeling at this very moment, they would not be able to answer that question honestly, and would more than likely answer you - ''I am fine'' , or break into uncontrollable tears. They have no words to describe how they feel, they have no reference due to a lack of knowledge about themselves. They are literally beside themselves, not really inhabiting their bodies.
Many have been thaught from childhood to suppress and/or disregard emotions - we have all heard comments like 'grow up', 'stop being a sissy', 'get a grip' and many more phrases aimed at shutting down emotional impulses. When the emotional pressure becomes overwhelming, especially to very sensitive people, they self medicate with drugs and alcohol, or resort to inflicting physical pain on themselves (slashing or ripping out hair), in order to divert their attention from the emotional pain. They may even experience uncontrollable bouts of emotional outbursts and be totally overwhealmed by the experience, believing that there is something 'wrong' with them.
I believe the greatest danger that humanity faces today, is their total diconnection to the inner life-informing energy of emotions. The external world that we live in, reflects the inner state of our being, and we have become so disconnected with our inner life that we no longer understand the meaning of life. We no longer have respect for life in general, we no longer feel the connection to the life force that supports us and all other living species upon this planet. And, by being so disconnected with ourselves, by being so full of negative emotional baggage (due to emotional suppression), we lash out at anything and everything around us in hatred and lust, in an unconscious cry for help.
In many ancient traditions, our world is a living being, it is a spiritual being of which we are a part, and as all suppressed children do, we are lashing out at our parent planet for help and attention. In our arrogance and ignorance, we believe that there is something wrong with the planet's ecosystem. When in fact, there is something wrong with us. Our parent planet is reflecting that back at us, to help us look into the mirror at our own state of being at this time.
It is a fact that our civilization can be destroyed, as has happened many times in the past when humanity has gotten out of balance within themselves, and out of balance with nature. We are not victims in this situation, we are instigating our own destruction by being self-destructive. We manifest on the outside what we are on the inside, our actions and our environment show us our level of consciousness.
If we are not connected to that subtle emotional energy that is a part of our spiritual dimension, we are not connected to anything, we are walking in the spirit of death ..... that is what we have been taught to do over many centuries. Due to our ignorance, we have come to look upon our planet as dead, and to see all other life forms and everything on the planet as objects to be exploited and /or destroyed by us.
It is time for us to awaken and to reconnect to life, to well-being, to health. It is time for us to thrive and to have that thriving collective energy reflected back to us by our parent planet Earth.
It is up to us, and it is within us to accomplish this shift in being, but this can only be done through learning about that part of us that has been kept secret from us - our emotional being.
In ancient teachings our emotional aspect was also known as the causal aspect, in other words, it is the cause of our reality - our emotional state creates our reality, individually as well as collectively. Emotion is also the means through which we can be collectively manipulated if we are kept in ignorance as to how it functions. It is only through healing our inner emotional state that the outer world will be healed. Change comes from within and is reflected outward.
The Emotional Intelligence Workshop is designed to show us our limiting emotional patterns and the way to break free from these patterns. It aslo teaches us about the effects of emotions on every aspect of our being and how to master our emotional reality. Emotional energy is directly connected to our life force, once we master our emotional energy we master our life energy.
The Emotional Intelligence Workshop is at-this-time given exclusively to women.
Women are the carries of life, they carry the future generations within them. They are first teachers even while their children are within their wombs. An emotionally intelligent and awakened woman is equal to a goddess - fully aware of the type of children she would like to bring into this world, and chooses a partner consciously. She is also aware that her example teaches her children how to be in this world and acts accordingly. Women are the backbone of society and it is up to the women to redefine the society of humanity at this time.
If you are ready to step up to the challenge of being awakened, being emotionally intelligent, you are invited to participate in one of our wokshops.
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Blessings of Inner Peace In Happiness to you all.